Tool 4 Listening To The Real Me To Declare A New Future

“Victorious warriors are winners first and then they go to war. Defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win.”

- Sun-tzu (Chinese general & military strategist ~400 BC)

 

Objective: At the end of this session each participant will come to know the real YOU and distinguish the difference between doing one’s word and being one’s word.

How does the real ME think?

One of my favorite places in the world is a cabin high up in the mountains of Carbon County, Utah. My father and his four brothers each purchased a building lot along the banks of Scofield Reservoir when I was about 14 years old. Over the years we have parked various trailers on the property, but after the past 4 years we have had a modular log cabin on the property that has provided us as a family a haven on earth. My father and his brothers have always referred to this property and its dwellings as the poor man’s Hyannis Port. Although maybe not as magnificent as the Kennedys mansion in Massachusetts, this that place has allowed us to feel very wealthy indeed. Since the passing of my parents I have shared that cabin with my two sisters and my brother. I now have 23 grand children and my siblings have been almost as prolific. The result is there are a lot of people wanting to spend time at the precious spot in the wilderness during the summer months.

Early one Saturday morning I was dragging a canoe into the water to go fishing. Eleven year old Emma, granddaughter of one of my sisters, came walking down the beach to where I was launching my craft and asked if she could go with me.

Emma is chatty and friendly and I was happy to have her company. After getting a green light from Emma’s grandmother, she and I  paddled off together. We had a magnificent time. Emma talked and we caught fish as fast we could get one off the hook and get the line back in the water.

After reeling in her fourth fish Emma came to a brilliant conclusion. She said, “We don’t go fishing to make us happy. Because we are happy we go fishing.”  Intrigued by her comment and the depth of her wisdom, I asked her to repeat her observation.

Again she affirmed,  “We don’t go fishing to make us happy. Because we are happy we go fishing.” 

“What would happen,” I asked her, “if we started out happy and then go fishing but don’t catch any fish? Would we then be sad?”

“Oh no,” responded the eleven year old sage. “If we are happy and don’t catch any fish then God will use that as an opportunity to teach us patience and He knows I must have patience to live with my little sister.

I said, ”Emma, you have the capacity of becoming one of my favorite people.”

She pointed her finger at me and exclaimed, “YOU, are already one of my favorite people.”

Emma holds a special place in my heart to this day. She has held on to one of the greatest innate childhood secrets of all times, being comes before doing.   

As adults we have the tendency to live backwards and that backwards thinking puts us in a position of having to fight the current of life by continually swimming upstream.

 

Being, The Entry Point To All Change

The world in which we live has a physical, mental and spiritual aspect to it. As adults most of us work from the physical towards the spiritual. We work in order to Have so we can Do in order to Be something. For example  we think, “If I Had money, then I could Do what I wanted and then I would Be happy.”

Reality Check: How is the “If I Had…” model working for you?  Frustrating?  Tiring?  Unfruitful?  Do you feel like a victim of your circumstances, thoughts, beliefs?  Are the things you want materializing in a physical world? – or do they seem to be “out there” somewhere just beyond our reach leaving you to think if only . . . . . . . .

If we focus on the mental we become human doings and wear ourselves out in constant effort to prove that we are OK. From that point of view we can never Do enough to be OK.

   

Inaccurate Perception Model
If you have control over …	Situation	Other People	Self
Motivational Order …	Having Physical	Doing     Mental	Being  Spiritual
Accurate Result Model
You have control over …	Self Declaration	Own Self Image	My Actual  Behavior
Motivational Results …	Being	Doing	Having

Verily I say unto you, “Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. “

           

                          

 

 

BeingàDoingàHavingàThinking like a child

Like Emma, the individuals in our society who are the most adept at thinking in the correct order are little children. Take, for example, Joe in the following story. We pick up on Joe at age five.

Joe arrived on this planet perfect and innocent. Without language to describe himself he accepted himself as “I am Being me.” Around age five Joe realized his love for animals and with that love came the decision to see himself as “I am being a veterinarian.” Being a vet resulted in being able to give up making other decisions. His decision to be, left his doing without question. He just did what came naturally to who he was. He cared for the dogs and cats in the neighborhood and took little birds home and made splints for their wings. “I am a veterinarian,” said Joe to himself and he knew it was true because he said so. As long as he just said it to himself he did just fine. It is when he started to share his self perception that the problems began to crop up. On the first day of kindergarten Joe stood atop his desk and announced the obvious. “I am a veterinarian,” he said. All of the other children and the teacher laughed and said, “Joe, you wouldn’t make a wart on a veterinarian’s nose.”

Joe stomped his foot on his desk and insisted, “I am a veterinarian. I am I am!” His class mates grumbled among themselves saying, “Who does this smart aleck think he is? He is not even in the first grade. He doesn’t have an education a degree or nothing.” They waited for him in an alley after school. That afternoon Joe went home with a bump on his lip. But Joe was a veterinarian. He did what veterinarians do. He helped animals. Joe just learned Being rule number 1. “Don’t insist on other people knowing who you are.” He also realized the two reasons not to insist. Reason number 1: When you insist that other people accept you as you see yourself, they beat you up after school. Reason number 2: It doesn’t require anyone’s permission to be whatever you want to be. There is only one reason you are who you are and that is who you and God say you are. It will do well for you to accept His vision of you rather than any perception you may come up with on your own. God vision of you is that you are fine and perfect just the way you are. The rest of the story will serve to illustrate the point.  

It didn’t require anyone’s permission for Joe to be a veterinarian. He was a vet the moment he said it was so. It was a creation that began in his own language and spread to the conversations he had with other people. So Joe became a veterinarian the moment the words came out of his mouth. He became a veterinarian with nobody’s agreement but his own and that was all he needed to begin.

One day, while sitting on his front porch watching the world go by through his veterinarian eyes, an old dog limped by. Joe, with his astute veterinarian judgment, concluded that without an operation this dog was going to die. “What would a veterinarian do in this situation?” he asked himself.

“He would operate,” Joe concluded with a few moments’ hesitation. Joe operated. This was Joe’s first experience operating and the outcome was different than he expected. The dog wouldn’t hold still and the procedure created a big mess. Eventually, the dog died.

“Whoops,” said Joe, “the next time I operate I will do it different.” And the next time he did do it different. That dog died too, but not in exactly same way and the mess wasn’t quite so bad. Eventually Joe’s patients didn’t die and even more eventually after that, some of them actually got better. Joe had just learned Being rule number 2. “Anything worth doing is worth screwing up or, there are no such things as mistakes only learning experiences. Who I am is not determined by performance. I am a human being because I was born a human being. I am not a human doing. Doing comes from practice. Being comes from birth.

Some 6 years later, at age twelve, Joe finds himself walking down the road again looking at the world though veterinarian eyes. The kids who used to beat him up in kindergarten don’t beat him up any more and when their dogs are sick they take them to Joe because he is now recognized as having a gift with dogs. Joe is one who stands out among his peers and reflects a standard far above the norm which bespeaks of a heavenly birth. How has he become possessed of that standard? He didn’t catch it from the world around him. He is altogether different from the masses. It is his own character. It rises up from something within himself an innate creative genius that was not learned. His genius is clear but seems to be coming from a mysterious force.

As Joe goes by his neighbor’s chicken coop he notices the chickens look strange. They have pink eyes, blue beaks, are walking in tight circles to the left and obviously laying no eggs. Joe does what veterinarians do because that is who he is. He goes into the chicken coop and starts checking those chickens out. The neighbor sees Joe in the coop and runs out and hollers, “Hey you dumb little kid, what are you doing in my chicken coop?”

“I’m a veterinarian,” replies Joe, “Your chickens are in good hands.”

“OK, if you’re so smart, you tell me what’s wrong with them” says the neighbor. “They aren’t laying any eggs.”

“I don’t know yet,” says Joe, “I’m a dog expert. I’ve never worked on chickens before but I’ll find out.” Joe then proceeds to do what a veterinarian would do. He goes down to the local vet who has a license, a degree and the agreement of the community that he can practice veterinary medicine and explains  the situation as he sees it.

The local vet doesn’t know what is wrong with the chickens either, but being impressed with this 12 year old boy asking such deep questions he gets out his chicken book that lists all the chicken diseases in the world and matches Joe’s description with a diagnosis in the book. “They have cooper deficiency,” says the local vet. “They need vitamin X with a cooper supplement.”  Joe goes down to the feed store and buys himself two bags of vitamin X with a cooper supplement, takes it back and feeds it to the chickens. The chickens start laying eggs like crazy.

The neighbor sees this and decides Joe is a genius and tells Joe’s teacher what has happened. When Joe’s 6th grade teacher hears from someone other than Joe that Joe is a genius Joe will never in his life time from that point forward get anything but straight A’s in school. Teachers don’t mess with geniuses. They flunk kids who see themselves and have the reputation of being dumb, but they don’t flunk geniuses.

Another 6 years go by and Joe comes out of the 12th grade with straight A’s in school and a reputation of being a gifted child. Where does he go to veterinary school? Right, anywhere he wants. Who foots the bill? Not Joe. Joe’s life works because he knows who he is. When we know who we are our lives will work and that life will flow to us like the current of a beautiful river.

Eight years later Joe comes out of school with a degree, an education and everything his kindergarten class mates said he needed to be a veterinarian in the first place. “Now they say, “We give you permission to be a veterinarian.”

Joe’s reply, “I was a veterinarian when I was five. The day I stood on my desk and announced it to the world I was a vet. I am a vet and always have been. I am a vet because I say so. It has nothing to do with what you say, what I do or have done or anything I have. It is so because I say so. ”

What Joe learned was that life goes from BeingàDoingàHavingà and is created in word by declaration. This is a law that works for us or against us. If I declare “I am stupid or broken or flawed,” that is what gets created. Be very careful about how you label yourself. You are what you say. Other people or situations can offer you labels but they only stick if you accept and declare them. What others say or think about you is really none of your business.

If you think you must Have money before you can Do what you want in order to Be happy, your thinking is backwards.  Become as a little child again. Being is a beginning place not an ending place. Having is a result not a cause. Think like a child and watch the miracles happen.

Being Law #1:  “Being” does not need the approval of other people. It is something observed by other people as it is occurring.  There is no need to tell other people who you are. You don’t need their permission.

Being Law #2: Anything worth doing is worth screwing up; there are no such things as mistakes only learning experiences. Behavior, past present or future does not determine “Being.” “Being” is only determined by declaration.”

You don’t start by having. You start by being. You can start doing but if you start doing before you start being, you are white knuckling the process.  We start every day be being or seeing ourselves as something. Much of the time it is done by default or habit. Much of the time, because we are playing old tapes and listening to the old voices in our heads we wake up saying, “Today I think I will be miserable,” and then go out and begin to do miserable stuff. Instead we could wake up and make a conscious choice to be something, anything else from miserable, and then the doing as a result of the being comes naturally. Try it and see.

What determines my Being? ________________________________________

What effect does my Being have on my Doing and Having? _______________ ________________________________________________________________

When can I choose my Being? _______________________________________

We started out real in the beginning. The picture in the center of the circle is representative of you and me when we arrived up on the planet. We couldn’t speak the language so no one could tell us we were flawed. We were totally self adsorbed in our own goodness. In other words we were pure, sweet, and innocent. We are brand new clean slates. What went wrong?   

Self-Defeating Behavior Target Chart

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1. 1.      My Inner Core:  We all started out as happy, innocent children. As I write this I have the great blessing of 23 grandchildren. I think of one in particular who, along her siblings just spent the week end with me and at a sleep over at my house. This little girl, whose name is Rose, wakes up every morning full of life and wonder.  She doesn’t want to go to sleep at night because she might miss something.  She is innocent and excited.
2. 2.      My Experience: At stage 2 in our circle of life, someone says something, or something happens that causes us to make a judgment about ourselves that there is something wrong or more accurately, “There is something wrong with me.” Rose’s older brother has become a critical voice in her life. Thus far Rose is handling it well but she may well comes to the point she starts to believe what her brother says, she will then move to stage three.
3. 3.      My False Self Perception:  This judgment, created in language (i.e., I’m not good enough) creates a distorted view or a filter the “it” can now use to cloud our thinking. If the time comes that Rose decides that the purpose of her life is to please her brother and that she realizes that she can’t please him she will move to step 4.
4. 4.      My Distorted Thinking:  Since I act in accordance with the way I see myself and my self perception has now become distorted, my life becomes fraught with the next stage in the circle.
5. 5.      Acting out Self Defeating Behaviors:  This may include anxiety depression and or dictions of any kind. My guilt, shame, anger hatred and frustration justify my acting.
6. 6.      My Life feels powerless & un-expressed!

 

Now is the time for us to get once and for all that power, happiness and peace of mind is available to you in the face of any circumstance. That power and peace of mind comes from affirming your true identity. Most people do not want to have power and peace of mind in any circumstance because they don’t like their current circumstances. Why do we resist being happy and content in our current circumstance? Because we are afraid that if they feel contentment in their current circumstance then they will be stuck with their current circumstances. The truth of the matter, however, is that if you don’t have power and peace of mind in your current circumstances you are more likely to be stuck with those circumstances. We generally get stuck with a circumstance until we learn to be happy in that circumstance. When we learn to be happy where we are then we can move on to the next phase of our growth and development.     

    Put this into practice by experimenting with the “I am Happy  exercise mentioned in the previous chapter.  

On a 3 x 5 card (or something you can keep close at hand) write the words “I am _____________” (something, first person and present tense such as I am happy or I am peaceful.) Repeat this label 20 times per day and then whenever you have a choice or a decision to make, repeat the label and then immediately do what comes to your mind. Notice and write down what happens. The promise is that your behavior will now support who you really choose to be rather than supporting a self image that has come by default from “it” in the past.

The Scientific Definition of Eternal Life

“Perfect correspondence would be perfect life. Where there no changes in the environment but such as the organism had the ability to adapt to meet, and were it never to fail in the efficiency with which it met them, there would be eternal existence, eternal knowledge and therefore eternal life.” Drummond, Henry, Natural Law In The Spiritual World.

    Who were you when you arrived on the planet?

Listening to the real Me will give you the ability to help you adapt to anything and thus have eternal life.

I have said, Ye are gods; and all of you are children of the most High. Psalm 82:6    Jesus answered them, Is it not written in your law, I said, Ye are gods? John 10:34

It is now time to really explore the real Me and listen to how this voice describes its perception of myself and others (you).

1. The real Me sees me as bigger and more capable than I can possible imagine.
2. The real Me sees me as someone who is cause in the matter of my own life.
3. The real Me sees me as whole and complete.
4. The real Me sees me as an awesome person ready to make a difference.
5. The real Me sees me as perfect the way I am and the way I am not with barriers to my expression and experience.
6. The real Me sees me as capable of disappearing those barriers.
7. The real Me sees me as a person who is ready and willing to consider new possibilities for thinking and action.
8. The real Me sees me as my friend.
9. The real Me sees me as someone who is totally capable of knowing and doing what is best for me in my life.

10. Other thoughts_______________________________________________

The real Me sees You as bigger and more capable than you can possible imagine.

1. The real Me sees You as someone who is cause in the matter of your own life.
2. The real Me sees You as whole and complete.
3. The real Me sees You as an awesome person ready to make a difference.
4. The real Me sees You as perfect the way you are and the way you are not with barriers to your expression and experience.
5. The real Me sees You as capable of disappearing those barriers.
6. The real Me sees You as a person who is ready and willing to consider new possibilities for thinking and action.
7. The real Me sees You as my friend and Your friend.
8. The real Me sees You as someone who is totally capable of knowing and doing what is best for You in Your life.
9. The real Me sees You as someone who is totally capable of knowing and doing what is best for You in Your life.

10. Others thoughts______________________________________________________________  

Referring back to the Three Laws of Performance, what difference would it make if I actually saw myself and used the language of the real Me to describe myself and to describe you? What kind of a world would this be and what kind of a world could we create?

1. I perform in accordance with the way I see myself.
2. The way I see myself is created in language
3. To see myself a new way I must begin to speak a new language.

 

My “it” cannot see the real Me or the real You. My “it” can only see your ”It.” In your “it” “’it “ sees failure, anger, irrelevance and a person who is dangerous and untrustworthy. My “it” sees your “it” as incapable and unwilling to understand me and support me. My ”it “sees your “its” as always conspiring against me.

Let’s take some time to fill out One more “Giving Up The ”it” To gain The Me” change form to see if indeed the “Me” voice is capable of helping us adapt to any situation or circumstance we face in our lives.

          If it passes the test, which I am certain it will; let’s take some time to ask ourselves, “Who is the real “Me?”

                                             Giving Up The “it” To Gain The Me

With every circumstance in your life you have a choice as to which voice you listen to.

(Please list an event from you distant or recent past which created trauma, anxiety or irritation in your life. It can be a great tragedy down to a small irritation.)

1. Event: _______________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________

2. Emotions: ____________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________

3. What does the “it” say? (This is an important part; it requires work and attention.  Consciously notice the thoughts flowing through your mind.  Ex: “Life is hard”.)  __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________

4. Resulting Behavior: (What behavior do you see coming out of these thoughts and the emotions generated by the “it’? __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________

5. What are the thoughts coming from the Me? Focus and listen carefully. Let it come.  ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________                                                                                                                                      

6. Which thoughts are true?___________________________________________________

7. Which thoughts take me where I want to go, the “it” or the Me? ________________________________________________________________________________

Declaration = an act of language requiring no evidence that leads to an outcome.

8. Make a “Me” thought as a declaration.

9. I declare myself to be ____________________________________________________

10. What behavior now is possible?

11. How does this feel?

 

Who am I? Who is the real Me? This is the question of the ages. Look at some of the aspect of your character that you cannot change such as your sex, being male or female. You were born a man or a woman. You can think all you want but what you were born to be you were born. Look at your race, the color of your skin. You were born that way and there is nothing you can do about that fact. I am black because I was born that way, or I am white because that is the way God made me. What else did God make me?

What would happen in my world if I began to see myself and talk about myself accurately? Matt 4:48. Be ye therefore perfect even as your father in Heaven is perfect. What would happen if you saw yourself as perfect and declared it that way? I have heard it said of superior athletes that they look at their lives and their game as perfect. Take Michael Jordan for example. He didn’t look at his game as anything but perfect. There was nothing wrong with Michael Jordan’s game of basket ball. After seeing it perfect he would watch movies of himself on the court and observe what might be missing as way of being the presence of which would make a difference. For example in watching the movie he noticed he had a perfect 10 foot swisher jump shoot. He noticed that he had a perfect 20 foot swisher jump shoot. He concluded that if he added a 15 foot jump shot it would bring his game that much close to the ideal he could see in his mind.

Think about the meaning of this concept. I can hear you say, “I’m not perfect” I do many wrong things. The truth of the matter is you are perfect and there is nothing you can do about it. It is just the way you are. You were born perfect just like you were born white or black or male or female. You cannot change the way you are. You can forget and in that forgetting you get enveloped in the “it” and the negative lies of this earth. What would your life be like if suddenly you realized and accepted who you really are? First of all you could stop trying to prove you are something you already are everything. You were born that way. You could stop trying to act like you are something special because you are already everything special.

          You might be saying, “How could I be perfect when my past life is so full of tragedy and mistakes. Again this is all in how you choose to look at it. C.S. Lewis has an enlightening conversation with an angel about the state mind of the “Saved” is his master piece, The Great Divorce.¹ Follow along in the dialog and see where you end up.

          “And the Saved?”

          “Ah, the Saved. . .  what happens to them is best described as the opposite of a mirage. What seemed, when they entered it, to be the vale of misery turn out, when they look back, to have been a well; and where present experience saw only salt deserts, memory truthfully records that the pools were full of water. There are not such things as mistakes there are only learning experiences. Those who attain “Heaven” will look back on their earthly lives and realize every experience they ever had led them to this perfect place. And the damned will look back on their earthly experience and they will say, everything that happened on earth led me to this place and both will speak truly. Every challenge that comes up in our lives can be interpreted by the “it” or the Me. The “it” will interpret everything from the past tense as a disaster and the “Me” will interpret everything a perfect future into which you are living as beautiful and as being in your best interest.

I work with and have worked with numerous addiction recovery groups. In my current group which I have been facilitating for over a year I asked the participants who all have their addiction solidly under control, “What is was in the recovery process that helped you turn the corner on your addiction and achieved a measure of sobriety?” The consistent and clear answer is, “The minute I saw the possibility of being someone other than who I had always thought myself to be.”  What difference would it make in your life to accept your real identity?

Your journey here on earth then is to come to know yourself as you really are. And that truth is that you are born to be a god because you are the son or daughter of God. That is the way you were born. We are perfect and therefore need to accept it. When we accept our real being God will unfold our lives to use without our effort or anxiety Just like the lilies grow without toil and effort.

Eph 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9 Not of works, lest any man should boast. 10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them. When we accept who we are God takes us in hand and mold us into the creature he wants us to be. Does that mean we just sit by and let it happen? Is there not work for us to do? Just decide to be a Veterinarian and let the world flow to us. There is plenty of work for us to do but that work is not to be expended in being who we are. We are who we are because of our birth right. Our work is continually to fight off the voice of the “it” and preserve the right attitude. We must continually abide in Christ and to be in the position of the right attitude. All the work in the world is merely taking advantage of energies already existing within us. The energy to be gods is there we just has to acknowledge it and watch it evolve.²

 

This concept may be a little hard to accept because we have believed a lie for so long. Gen. 1:27. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. So what happened to that understanding. How did we come to believe the lie? The “it” showed up and got us off track.

          The following is an example giving to me many years ago from a client of mine who said he was quoting from a book entitled, How To Create A Schizophrenic. I can’t reference here because I have never been able to find it nor do I know it the book actually exits, but the idea is pertinent.

After having been created naked in the image of  God. Like all little children they didn’t judge themselves good of bad they just accepted themselves as who they were, creations in the image of their maker.  Them something happened that turned their lives upside down. God told them not to do it but being children and curios they did it anyway. They stood before a strange tree in the Garden of Eden. In the tree lived a snake called the “it”. “It” was a curious creature with an enticing voice. “It” convinced these perfect children to have just a little nibble. When they did they went through a thought change. They didn’t become bad they become teachable. All of a sudden they could see the possibility of making judgments between good and bad. Before they had just been the children of God. Now there was a good and a bad, a better and a best, a worse and a worse than. The snake now had an in which he used very quickly. They were now open to the slanted view of the snake. Before they were just of infinite worth because of there birthright. The snake now makes their worth dependent on an arbitrary comparison between good and bad, good and evil. The first thing the snake says to these perfect gullible children is, “You’re naked.” This was not hot news they had been naked all along but now they attached a new meaning to their condition.” The new meaning was, “There is something wrong with us. We are flawed. We are bad. We are not as good as we once were.”

Satan introduced shame into their lives. Shame comes from believing a falsehood about ourselves. The next things he says is, “Get some leaves and cover yourselves or God will see you nakedness.” The implication here is that when God sees you, he is going to know you are bad and be angry and punish you for what you have done. Satan creates in Adam and Eve a fear of God, the original “Me, the only one who can restore us to the truth, the only one who can straighten out their thinking. They now have a problem of shame. Guilt is defined as feeling remorse for what I have done. Shame is defined as feeling remorse for who I am.  The lies of Satan have now effectively cut Adam and Eve off from the solution to their problem. In a two step process, Satan effectively introduces insanity into the world. Step one he helps Adams and Eve feel shame for the natural condition of being naked. Step two he convinces them that God will not be pleased and sees them as bad and will hurt or punish them so they had better avoid Him. They are now shameful and disconnected from God who is the only solution to their condition. That is what has happened to every child in the world who has been embarrassed, abused or molested or gone astray. . Perception number 1. There is something wrong with you. Perception number 2. If adults find out about your problem they will punish you. What one of us on the planet is not suffering from this same kind of insanity?

The original sin was not sex or even eating the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil. The sin was believing the voice of the snake. The sin is believing the lie. How many lies do you believe in your own head on a daily basis? What are you trying to cover up? Who is it that is doing the judging? Who is talking and who is the one with all the opinions? The truth of the matter is you are valuable and worthwhile and your performance may need just a little tweaking.

We all have a negative voice in our heads, an opposition in all things. That voice doesn’t belong to us. When we were born, we didn’t have the voice. The voice comes after we learn language then the different points of view and all the judgments and lies from the tradition of our past. Even when we first learn to speak we speak only the truth. But little by little we get reprogrammed and the big lie is born. The big lie is, “There is something wrong with you and you had better cover it up. Hide or God will see your nakedness.”

God told Adam and Eve and all of us, “If you partake of the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil ye shall surely die,” We did eat of it and we are now dead. We are dead because our real authentic self covered up with lies is no longer there. The one who is living our life is the voice of the snake. We call it thinking. It isn’t thinking. It is just listening to the liar in our heads.

Being Law #1:  “Being” does not need the approval of other people. It is something observed by other people as it is occurring.  There is no need to tell other people who you are. You don’t need their permission.

Being Law #2: Anything worth doing is worth screwing up; there are no such things as mistakes only learning experiences. Behavior, past present or future does not determine “Being.” “Being” is only determined by declaration.”

You don’t start by having. You start by being. You can start doing but if you start doing before you start being, you are white knuckling the process.  We start every day by being or seeing ourselves as something. Much of the time it is done by default or habit. Much of the time, because we are playing old tapes and listening to the old voices in our heads we wake up saying, “Today I think I will be miserable,” and then go out and begin to do miserable stuff. Instead we could wake up and make a conscious choice to be something such as happy, and then a new doing comes naturally. Try it and see.

In keeping with what we have coved to this point I am asking you to create your new future with a personal mission statement. I included my own in the beginning of the book and also in the appendix for whatever value it may be to you. It is essential that you create one of your own in order to live into your own beautiful future which you are creating.

The new future I declare for myself and my life is __________________________________________________________________

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Share your mission statement with everyone who is important to you and lets live into this beautiful future together.

A New Voice Of Declaration¹

                   Based upon the following three principles²

            1.  We perform in accordance with the way we see ourselves.

2.    How we see ourselves is created in language, in the nature of the conversations we have about ourselves with ourselves and others.

3. We commit to continually speak with this new voice of reality about ourselves, and do hereby declare, by our word, that the following is true and accurate:

• ·        We are people builders. It is our desire and practice to raise each individual we meet to a level of listening to their real voice and thereby introducing the concept of eternal life and eternal existance.³ We seek the channel of the greatest activity where we can go the most good and be of the greatest service to mankind. To increase our supply of God’s influence, we continually increase our demand  by improving our thoughts daily.
• ·        We know that the dominant thoughts of our minds will eventually reproduce themselves into outward physical action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality. We concentrate our thinking and repeat our declaration daily, thereby creating in our minds a clear mental picture of who we are and what our purpose is.
• ·        We are whole, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, successful and happy. We are mindful and prudently aware of our primary mission in life which is service, home and posterity.
• ·        We recognize that God has commanded us and given us the ability and the resources to achieve our major purpose. And because He has commanded it He is preparing a way to create the tools to bring about global, social emotional, spiritual and economic freedom to each person we  meet, individually and in groups thereby generating a working capital sufficient to bring His will about. We demand persistent and continuous action towards this attainment and do hereby commit to render such action.
• ·        To this declaration we commit our lives, our time, our resources and our sacred word of honor. Our word of honor is our POWER!

 

Steven D. Bunnell, PhD

¹A declaration is an act of language requiring no evidence leading to an outcome. (Example: The Declaration of Independence)

²Zaffron, S. and D. Logan, The Three Laws Of Performance. Jossey-Bass Publishers. 2009

 

¹ Lewis, Clive Stapleton. The Great Divorce. Harper Collins Publishers, London: 1942.

²Drummond, Henry, Natural Law In The Spiritual World, New York: Clarke, Given & Hooper Publishers.

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